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so this is something i definitely won't and don't miss!! this is something that wasn't even on my original list!  but thanks to facebook and it's on today this is what you posted i was reminded of this this morning: definitely not going to miss being the bitch... i mean i am a bitch, don't get me wrong. but having to be the bitch is something entirely different. in the college years i had what my friends referred to as "the voice". basically the voice says i'm pissed off and you better not fuck with me. as a manager you have to have a certain amount of the the voice. but you can't have too much voice bc employees are delicate little beings. it is such a double standard and i'm so glad i'm not a manager any more. you have to hold your staff accountable and coach in the moment. but if you say too much they complain to your manager. ahhhh !! i'm getting so pissed just thinking about it right now. so you hire someone to do a jo

Today little man is 13  months old! Since I didn't post about his awesome cake on his bday I'll tell you all about it now! But first the recipe. Blueberry Velvet Cake with Cream Cheese Frosting 3 cups all-purpose flour 1 tablespoon unsweetened cocoa powder 1 tablespoon baking powder 1 stick unsalted butter, room temperature 1¾ cup granulated sugar 4 large eggs, room temperature 2 teaspoons vanilla extract 1 cup buttermilk ½ teaspoon salt 1½ pints blueberries Blue Food Coloring 1 stick unsalted butter, room temperature 1 8oz package cream cheese, room temperature 3 cups confectioner's sugar 1 teaspoon vanilla Preheat the oven to 350 degrees. Grease 2 9" cake pans with butter or cooking spray.  In a bowl, combine flour, cocoa, baking powder and salt. In another bowl beat the butter until light and creamy. Slowly add the sugar and cream until light and fluffy. Add the eggs one at a time, fully incorporate each egg before adding the next. Ad

GINGER PEAR BREAD -1 cup peeled, cored, and chopped pears -1/2 cup white sugar -1/2 teaspoon ground ginger  -1/4 teaspoon ground cloves  -1/3 cup vegetable oil  -1 teaspoon vanilla extract  -2 eggs, beaten  -1 cup all-purpose flour  -1 teaspoon baking soda  -1/4 teaspoon baking powder  -1/2 teaspoon salt  DIRECTIONS Toss chopped pears with sugar, ginger, and cloves in a large bowl.  Set aside and let the sugar dissolve in the pear juices. Preheat oven to 325. Grease an 8x4-inch loaf pan. Stir vegetable oil, vanilla extract, and eggs into the pears. In a separate bowl, combine flour, baking soda, baking powder, and salt.  Add the flour mixture to the pear mixture and stir gently just to combine.  Pour the batter into the prepared loaf pan. Bake in the preheated oven until golden brown and a toothpick inserted in the center comes out clean, about 40 minutes. OK so first of all... the mister and I always complain when we are lo

DISCLAIMER: this post is not about any particular retail company. it is what i have learned/ observed/ experienced at 14+ years at XX, 7 intermittent years throughout college and post graduation at XX, kinda remember as a seasonal one year in college at XX, and barely remember for about a month at XX (bc i thought i could do 2 jobs at the same time and at the time i couldn't) these are my opinions about the retail experience and are not 100% based on one company so when i gave my 2 week notice i started joking around about how i wasn't going to miss this or that. then when i decided that i was going to start the blog again a decided that i was going to have a feature (or several) about what i wasn't going to miss about retail. before i left i decided that the #1 thing i wasn't going to miss was the music. and while this was decided based  on the awesome  music i got to listen to on a daily basis  it is not solely based on that job. i have several issues with the musi

Now that I'm a mom I've learned a few things.  Today's lessen... Rocking the baby to sleep isn't good for you.  Sometimes you really really want the baby to nap so you can do the dishes or eat or take a shower or poop.  But really when you rock the baby to sleep you make yourself tired and all you really want to do at that point is just take a nap yourself...

I know I know...I said a few years ago I was going to write more... then I didn't.   Well things have changed. I mean really really changed.  The mr and I had a baby! The little man is going to be 1 in a few days.  So that really changes life.  I was very lucky that I was able to take 6 months maternity leave from my job! Then when I went back to work mom and dad put their life on hold and came out from the east coast for 6 months.  I also got lucky that my first day back ( as a retail manager) was the day after the day after Christmas! I missed all of the holidays, so that was an extra bonus.  The next step was trying to find a day care that could work with my schedule, which is different every week and I find it out 2 weeks in advance. This proved to be extremely difficult.My work has a life assistance program and I called them several times to try to source day cares. They came back with a list of about 4 each time that didn't 100% meet our criteria. So I called